“We find comfort among those who agree with us – growth among those who don’t.”
Why do we dislike it when people don’t agree with us for some reason? Is it because we want to be right? We want to be liked? Perhaps it is because we have a personal stake in whatever it is that is being disagreed with?
When people disagree with us are they doing so because they are right and we are wrong or is it because the ideas and knowledge we have at the time isn’t shared and equally understood?
I would argue that it isn’t about being right or wrong, it is about the ability to understand that we only see the world through our own unique lens and in order to make meaningful change and embrace growth you must get outside of your comfort zone and see the world differently. That means you must make it safe for people to disagree with you. Without making it safe for others to disagree, making it known that you want to see the world differently, you will never get a broader view and a chance to grow.
For some reason I kept thinking of the last line from the Pink Floyd classic “Comfortably Numb:” “The dream is gone, I have become comfortably numb.” I think that is what happens if you are surrounded by people that only agree with you. You become numb to growth and lose the ability to see the world from different perspectives and angles.
Don’t become “comfortably numb…”