Do you seek out cheerleaders or coaches?

“The naked truth is always better than the best-dressed lie.”

Ann Landers

The most prolific liar in the world is the one that exists within our own minds. We create stories and narratives based on one-sided perceptions so far removed from the truth that in hindsight it can be difficult to understand how one ever believed what at one time was seen to be an indisputable fact.

Because our minds are so good at creating an account we want to believe in it is critical to intentionally foster relationships with others who will share with you the full and naked truth. I like to think of these relationships along a continuum. On one end you have a cheerleader, and on the other end, you have a coach.

A cheerleader will motivate and inspire you, they bring active energy to bear and help you feel good about yourself. But they aren’t going to tell you what you have to do in order to win. The cheerleader’s job is to build and focus on energy development. At the extreme, a cheerleader isn’t going to tell you the truth, the hard and unvarnished reality, instead the cheerleader tells you what you want to hear.

The role of the coach is to tell you what you NEED TO HEAR. The coach brings the naked and unfiltered truth to bear so you can actually get better. A great coach won’t allow you to believe in the well-dressed lie and can help you move past the stories you create inside your own mind.

The hardest truth to hear is the naked truth, yet it is the most powerful because with this truth you can change yourself, and therefore change the world…

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Class begins on the inside…

“Class is an aura of confidence that is being sure without being cocky. Class has nothing to do with money. Class never runs scared. It is self-discipline and self-knowledge. It’s the sure-footedness that comes with having proved you can meet life.”

Ann Landers

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What words come to mind for you when you think of those you believe to live in a classy manner? How do the people who exhibit a high degree of class treat others?

The words that jump to my mind are: Dignity, honor, respect, appreciation, confidence, affirmed, responsible, accountable, engaged, thankful, energized, consistent, reliable, secure, self-confident, and I am sure the list could go on and on.

Class is a label applied to people based on how we observe them interacting with ourselves and others. But class is a result. It is an exterior manifestation of something much deeper. People with class know who they are. People with class know how they want to treat, and be treated by, others. People of class demonstrate these behaviors we like because they have built them on a foundation of self-knowledge and self-awareness.

So if you want to be a person with class, get to know and appreciate yourself first. You can’t be something else to someone else if it isn’t a true depiction of what you believe. Make your own list of words capturing the essence of clas and hold yourself accountable to those things. WRITE THEM DOWN… You have to apply all the words to how you think about yourself. Do this consistently and then your exterior will be considered “classy.”

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