“What a wonderful thought it is that some of the best days of our lives haven’t even happened yet.”
I can’t imagine thinking of life differently than it is expressed in this quote. Even during challenges and hard times the best is yet to come. It isn’t always the big or the grand things, it is the ability to appreciate the smallest elements of life that perhaps one never had time for before because you were too busy being busy…
It is the taste of a perfectly brewed cup of coffee during a few moments of silence and prayer on a cold winter morning. The laughter of the family around the dinner table at the end of a long day. A good nights of sleep and a morning without demands on your time. It is doing work that matters and helps people alongside people you trust and respect. It is a million little moments that happen every single day.
Perhaps the best days occur when you take the time to appreciate life, instead of simply existing. Every day can be one of those days, if you choose appreciation, gratitude and joyfulness. What a loss it would be if you had one of the best days, and missed it completely…
Here is a simple recipe for change. Take out a piece of paper. Ask yourself these questions.
“WHAT is the one thing I NEED to change in my life?” Write that down at the top of the page and circle it.
Now answer this question. “WHY is this change important and necessary?” Write this down in as few words as possible and underline it. Heck, grab a highlighter and and really make this line stand out. This is the most important line on the page.
Now answer this question. “HOW will I do next to make that change a reality?” Write down those answers, no more than 3 things. Rank them based on what you can do FIRST.
Now for the hard part. DO the things you wrote down. Start every day looking at your desired and needed change, remind yourself why it is important and then DO the action. When you have completed your next task mark it off and add one more. Never more than three things on your list and you only focus on the next one. As you get better and better and build momentum then you will look forward to checking off the list and seeing how much you have accomplished.
For example if your “need” is to lose 10 pounds then that is what you write at the top
WHAT = Lose 10 pounds by 12/1/19
WHY = To have a healthy body and more energy for my family
HOW = (1) Exercise 45 minutes today before lunch. (2) Track my foods/meals in an App like MyFitnesspal (3) Do not take in any calories after 7:00 PM.
DO = Check these off through the day and then build a new list tomorrow.
Change doesn’t happen overnight and it doesn’t happen simply because you want it to. Change happens when you clearly articulate what it is that you want to change. Why that change is important. How you are going to make that change happen by focusing on what to do next. Then you have to do the hard part. EXECUTE! No excuses, no complaints, no justifications. Just do it.
There are tons of books, apps, systems and methods you can use to track and manage change. I use several of them in combination but the MOST IMPORTANT factor is to clearly articulate WHAT you want to change and WHY that change is important to you. That is why it is important to revisit this daily. Never lose sight of your goal and why it is important. That will be the motivation you need to EXECUTE. W/W/H/D = CHANGE
“Yesterday is not ours to recover, but tomorrow is ours to win or lose.”
Lyndon B. Johnson
How easy it is to get lost fighting the battles from our past days. We can get so wrapped up in what did, or didn’t, happen in our lives. I know that I will find myself replaying a conversation in my mind and thinking of better responses or rethinking my actions in response to a certain situation.
I believe this can be a valuable, and extremely beneficial habit to form. But it has to be done with an eye clearly on the future and how one needs to grow and evolve towards building a better self. Taking the time to reflect and learn is a powerful way to grow forward into the next day.
How do you ensure that you don’t get lost in yesterday, forgetting that the time has passed and it doesn’t define your present day or the tomorrow that is yet to come? I find that taking 15 minutes at the end of each day to answer the following questions in a daily journal helps me process the day, and focus on creating wins.
What happened in the past day?
What were my biggest wins?
What lessons did I learn?
What am I thankful for right now?
How am I feeling right now?
What did I read or hear?
What stood out from what I read or heard?
What do I need to do next to move forward on my goals?
I know these are a lot of questions to run through, and I fully admit that I don’t get to do this every single day. However when I skip a day I find the next morning to be a little less focused, a little less intentionally crafted.
Over the years I have played with the order of these questions, and with different questions, and on occasion I will replace one with a different inquiry to address a specific challenge or need in my life. For example, if I am taking time off with the family I will modify “What were my biggest wins” into “What were my biggest wins as a husband, as a father?” The point isn’t to get stuck on the questions themselves but instead to focus on learning from the day and very specifically shaping what you need to do to create wins tomorrow.
As a side note I do believe the order of the questions is very important. That’s why I end with “what did I learn” and “what do I need to do” questions. Those reset my head and help me focus on tomorrow.
To ensure that I follow through on my goals of daily reflection I use the journalling app “Day One.” I love that I can capture my thoughts in a simple to use mechanism that is always with me. I have used a paper journal to do this in the past but I found that it was too easy to forget or that it allowed me to create an excuse to not do the practice. There are tons of digital journals out there, so do whatever works for you. The key is to find a method that enables you to process today with a relentless focus on building a better future.
Be ready and mindful that today will be a ‘yesterday’ very very soon. Take the time at the end of the day to reflect and intentionally build a winning tomorrow. You’ll be glad you did.
“Your future is created by what you do today, not tomorrow.”
Maybe tomorrow will be the right time to start that project, but not today, I’m too busy…
Next week will be a better time to tackle that tough conversation head on, but not today, I just don’t have the energy to deal with it…
I’ll start reading that book on breaking bad habits next month, but not right now, there is just too much going on and I don’t have time…
I’ll start spending more time with my family when I get through this busy season at work, but I can’t right now, they’ll understand that I am doing this for them anyway…
It is amazing how many excuses we can create to put off or delay work that will make the biggest difference in our lives. In our “instant gratification” society it seems that all that matters is living in the moment. The easy things we embrace, but the hard things we put off or ignore. But if we want to create a tomorrow that we will be able to live in fully and completely, we have to do the work today.
Yesterday can’t be changed, fixed or undone. Tomorrow is just a dream. Today is the only day that matters if you want to make your visions come true. Live it fully and completely and do the work that will be the foundation for your future.
“Direction is more important than speed. We are so busy looking at our speedometers that we forget the milestone.”
Where are you going?
Where do you want to be one year from today? What if instead of one year, it took two years? Would that devalue the direction you are headed? Would an inability to achieve some goal within your desired timeframe diminish the goal or make it null?
If the goal is right, then not achieving it as fast as possible, in some personally assigned timeframe, shouldn’t impact the direction itself.
There’s no question that we live in the age of agility and speed. Everything is happening faster and faster and we need to be able to act and react with temerity.
But if we focus on speed over direction we are surrendering ourselves to live a life that is reactive instead of one that is filled with purpose and clear direction.
One should spend as much time looking at your life’s compass as you do the speedometer. In general it isn’t nearly as much fun to look at a compass as a speedometer, because if you are headed in the right direction the indicators on a compass don’t change whereas the speedometer symbolizes so much action and energy.
But what good does it do if you get to the wrong place as fast as possible?
“What you do makes a difference and you have to decide what kind of a difference you want to make.”
What is the legacy you want to leave from your life here on this earth? I find that this is such a broad question that it can be hard to wrap my head around what it truly means. Perhaps it helps to rephrase today’s quote in a more specific and time sensitive fashion.
For whom do you want to make a difference today and what kind of difference do you want to make?
Everyday we have an opportunity, no, we have an obligation to answer the question about what kind of difference we want to make with our lives. We weren’t born to simply live, accumulate things, and worry about how and to whom the fruits of our labors will be redistributed to when we pass away. We were born to make a difference in the lives of others.
That can mean one person, or it can mean thousands of people through the course of your life. It doesn’t matter. What matters is that you have to decide to make a difference;today. If you answer this question today, and every day, then you can never stray far from living a life of meaning and impact.
When you switch your focus from creating a life based on earthly success measures, and instead focus on creating a life of significance that is what will build a life of meaning. Your legacy becomes not the goal but is instead the result of thousands of daily decisions made for others, not for yourself.
“Discipline is the ability to make yourself do something you don’t want to do in order to get a result you really want to get.”
What is it that you want to accomplish? What is a result that you deeply desire? Exactly how much do you want it? Are you willing to do the work to achieve it? More importantly, are you willing to do the work after the excitement fades? When the effort is no longer fun and has become pure drudgery and sticking to it is really hard to do? That’s when real discipline comes in to play. Talk is cheap, action is cheap too, at least for the first few days. Then the real work starts.
Anyone can motivate themselves to take the first step in a journey. Even the first hundred steps might not be that hard. But what about the steps after that? What if you don’t know exactly how long the journey is going to take?
Discipline means sticking to your plan, doing the work, focusing on getting the next step in the journey right, not worrying about whether there are 100 or 1,000 or 10,000 more steps remaining. Doing the right work, the right way, right now, is all that matters. If you can do this, for the things that are truly important, you have discipline. If you can’t, then you can develop this powerful trait, by just doing it, day in, day out, one day at a time.
What is important enough to you to put forth this kind of effort, with no guarantee of success? Answer this question and you will uncover what it takes to unlock the power of discipline.
“The #1 one job of every company is to make their customer’s life easier.”
How many companies forget this simple axiom? Heck, how many companies don’t even make doing this a part of their intentional customer experience in any way?
The companies that I am a raving fan of are the companies that are easy to do business with and, in so doing, make my life easier. I might like their products or services, but I love how they serve me. The experience of purchasing or using their services is just as important as the product itself, sometimes more.
In today’s world it often means that the companies who get it right have highly intentional digital experiences that are intently focused on the customer experience and optimizing that experience for simplicity and ease of doing business.
For example, I love the restaurant chain Chick Fil A. They always have incredible customer service and a great product that is consistent and high quality. Over the past couple of years they have taken their intentional customer experience design up a few notches by developing and deploying a highly effective and easy to use digital app for their restaurants. Not only can I find nearby locations when I am traveling, review their menu, place a mobile order, etc. (all basics of doing business in the digital age) but the app remembers my previous orders and allows me to simply and quickly place a favorite custom order without having to going through all the hassle of making the same choices every time I place an order. They solved for my problem, not theirs, and in so doing make my life a little easier when it comes time to get my favorite meal for lunch. With just one or two taps on my screen I can place the order, let the location I am visiting know I am coming and they will have it ready for me when I get there. I didn’t even know that I needed this functionality and now I measure other organizations against the standard that Chick Fil A has set for me!
This sounds so simple right? Why is it a big deal? Because Chick Fil A is focused on my experience, my needs, my problems or challenges as a customer. They have solved for those things with an intentional focus on making my experience with them simple and easy. As a customer I always feel like I am Chick Fil A’s #1 priority and that carries through in how they design their digital experiences. Oh, and guess what? I spend more money with them than I might otherwise because they have made it so easy to do business with them on my terms.
Who are your favorite companies that have a maniacal focus on making your life easier? How are you taking those lessons and applying to the customers you serve in your life?
“One of the greatest gifts you can give to anyone is the gift of attention.”
I fully admit that I love technology, gadgets and gizmos. I always have, I am a bit of a geek in this way. iPhone = Check – iWatch = check – iPad = check
In today’s world our technology can really be a distraction when trying to have a conversation with someone. The constant buzzes, beeps, dings and notifications serve to pull your attention away from whomever it is that you are talking with at any given time. It is hard to be fully focused and present when your attention is constantly being pulled in another direction.
Recently I started turning off all notifications on my watch and phone when sitting down with anyone because I realized the message I was unintentionally sending them was that I was too busy or interested in other things when I would get an alert and look at my phone or watch. It’s hard to do at first but then it becomes very liberating. It is still a work in progress for me, but something I am committed to improving each and every day.
What is getting in the way of your giving your full attention to someone? How do you take steps to change it so that when you are present you are fully present and engaged?
“Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.”
George Bernard Shaw
It is amazing how much of our leadership impact and ability is based on first being able to lead oneself. If we can’t be completely candid, open and real with ourselves on our need to change, how can we expect others to change?
What is the #1 change you need to make on and in yourself to increase your impact? What is getting in your way? How can you start the change today?
“Sad will be the day for every man when he becomes absolutely contented with the life he is living, with the thoughts that he is thinking, with the deeds that he is doing, when there is not forever beating at the doors of his soul some great desire to do something larger, which he knows that he was meant and made to do.”
What were you meant and made to do? Is it more than you are doing now? Where have you become contented in life and in your thoughts and actions?
This is heady stuff for early in the morning but it definitely stopped me in my tracks as I read this quote and reflected on the questions above. I believe there can be great danger in discontentment if it is all about yourself and what you want to do. But if you frame these questions from the perspective of what God meant and made you to do, perhaps it might change your answers.
What did God mean and make me to do? Is it more than I am doing now? Am I fulfilling all that He created me to be and accomplish?
“The best preparation for good work tomorrow is to do good work today.”
“I don’t have time to do it right today, but I will tomorrow, I swear!” That certainly rings false doesn’t it? If we don’t have time to do the job right today, then when will we ever have time to do it right? Good work only has one definition. If we want to achieve our goals and do good work tomorrow, we have to focus on what we control today and deliver the goods.
“Individual commitment to a group effort – that is what makes a team work, a company work, a society work, a civilization work.”
Working together with a team towards a common and shared purpose is so powerful. When there is a common purpose, a shared goal that has 100% commitment, then there is no room for hidden agendas, no place for politics, no backstabbing or power struggles.
When the goals of the individual are more important than those of the group that is when the bad stuff happens and dissension builds in the team. How do you ensure this doesn’t happen?
First, make sure you aren’t part of the problem. Are you spending any effort that detracts from the common mission and purpose? Are you more interested in being right, than in doing what is right?
Second, is there a common purpose? A clearly defined objective that everyone understands and believes in?
Third, Does everyone know what is expected of them? Are roles clearly defined with the key success metrics and targets aligned to the achievement of the goal?
Fourth, Is the team reviewing successes and CANDIDLY talking about failures or setbacks in a non-personal and non-threatening manner with the focus on the mission, not the person.
As Vince said, “Individual commitment to a group effort – That is what makes a team work…”
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”
Sitting around waiting for things to happen just sucks. I am the world’s worst at being patient because sometimes patience just feels too much like inaction. I’ve long lived by the tule that it is better to do something, even if it is wrong, than to do nothing at all.
When you are doing something, anything, then you don’t have time to be afraid and worry about all the “what ifs.” Sometimes the action can be physical, sometimes it can be sitting down to reflect and plan the work. Doing something is the key. There is no time or space for sitting idly by in life. If you do, then you will reap what you sow which is nothing…
“A major stimulant to creative thinking is focused questions. There is something about a well-worded question that often penetrates to the heart of the matter and triggers new ideas and insights.”
I once heard Jim Collins speak and he was relaying a lesson taught to him by Peter Drucker. The essence of the lesson was that if one wanted to become truly impactful as a leader they must change their focus and truly be more “interested than interesting.” The key here was that when one is focused on being interesting they are about themselves and what they want to say and do. When they are interested they are focused on the other person and how they can help them.
The next part of the lesson was on how to accomplish being “interested vs. interesting.” If one wants to convey interest, then one must change the questions to statements ratio. Ask three, four, five times or more questions for every statement one makes. That conveys focus on the situation and the other person, not that you are only interested in being heard…
It has been at least 10 years since I first heard this and it has really stuck with me over the years. It is an area that I continually have to remind myself to work on and really focus on enhancing my questions to statements ratio. (I wrote a little bit about this (at least tangentially) back in August in this post.)
Take stock of your leadership words today. Are you asking more questions or making more statements? Are you focused on being interested or on being interesting? One side is about others, the other side is all about you…
“Excellence must be pursued, it must be wooed with all of one’s might and every bit of effort that we have each day there’s a new encounter, each week is a new challenge.”
Every morning is a new opportunity to get back up, to attack the world, to strive for excellence with all one’s might and effort. That’s what it takes to win. That’s what it takes to go beyond where we are today and get to where we want to be.
Approaching each day as a new challenge, a new opportunity to strive for excellence allows one to leave whatever happened yesterday, whether it was a success or not, in the past. Excellence is ahead of us and achieving it depends on what we do right now.
What are you going to do today to advance towards excellence? This is not a list of ALL the things you feel you need to do. What is the one thing that you can do differently and WILL DO today?
“Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin.”
How often do we spend our lives living in the past by lamenting what didn’t happen or trying to hold on to our previous accomplishments? Conversely, how much time do we spend living and thinking about the future and what we want or desire? I will admit that I am very guilty of the latter scenario, spending a lot of time and energy on what I think or want to happen. It is a constant battle to bring focus to what I need to do RIGHT NOW and put that same energy to use today.
Our supply of energy and time is finite. How we choose to invest it TODAY will create the future we want but only if we invest wisely. You have to start now. What is the very simple, finite, and clear thing you can start today that would impact the lives of others or yourself? Got it? Do it…
“We are not creatures of circumstance; we are creators of circumstance.”
What are the choices that you will make today that will impact your circumstances tomorrow? Next week? Next year? Are you willing to decide or do you surrender that decision and let the world or others decide for you? Perhaps more importantly, when you see the need for change, the need to take action, do you make that decision with specific intent or do you sit idly by and let it pass, thinking perhaps that “I’ll deal with that later.”
We all have the opportunity to change and grow but to do so means that we have to be responsible and accountable for making the necessary decisions. Growth is a choice, not a requirement. Our circumstances reflect those choices. If you don’t like the circumstances you find yourself in, make different choices…
Yesterday I wrote about focusing on the important, not just the urgent. It made me think about the discipline required to say “no” to all the things that invariably come up in life that will then allow you to focus on the really important things. If you don’t say “no” then you will always be a slave to everyone else’s priorities and not putting the focus on those things that you have said are most important.
I will fully admit that this is an area where I have to be constantly diligent and focused or I will go astray. One tactic I have found that really helps me is taking my objectives and breaking them down in to weekly focus areas and then daily key priorities. Writing those down every morning ensures that I stay on point (or at the very least have a constant reminder throughout the day).
Bottom line. If you want to say yes to the really important stuff you have to say no to all the things that will get in the way.
“Concentration and mental toughness are the margins of victory.”
We are all going to get knocked down every once in a while. Without some setbacks now and again how does one develop mental toughness and the determination to overcome? Interestingly if you substitute ‘steadfastness’ and ‘perseverance’ for ‘concentration’ and ‘mental toughness’ you have a very similar parallel from these verses in the book of James which I have been studying for the past several days.
‘Behold, we consider those blessed who remained steadfast. You have heard of the steadfastness of Job, and you have seen the purpose of the Lord, how the Lord is compassionate and merciful.” James 5:11
“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.” James 1:2-4
Without concentration and mental toughness, or steadfastness and perseverance, one can’t learn from the inevitable trials and setbacks in life and emerge a better version of themselves…
“There is nothing so useless as doing efficiently that which should not be done at all.”
I’ve been guilty of this one more than a few times. Doing a great job on something, spending time getting it right, but it not being the most important use of my time or energy. Why does this happen?
Focusing on the things that matter means you have to be highly intentional at taking the time to understand the problem and thinking through what the most important or impactful solution will be. Where should the effort be focused? Sometimes you identify the right thing, but the situation and environment changes and the initiative or effort should be dropped. That can be hard to do, but it is critical if you want to make real progress.
Create a daily discipline of asking yourself “what is the most important thing for me to be spending my time on today?” Ideally this should link back to your most important goals, or the “big rocks” as Dr. Stephen Covey calls them. Otherwise, it is so easy to get off track because we are doing something that is fun or that we particularly enjoy…
“Focus 90% of your time on solutions and only 10% of your time on problems.”
Anthony J. D’Angelo
Being solution oriented is the antithesis of being excuse oriented. Think about people you know that are wired this way. What do they talk about? Their problems, not what they are going to do about it or how they are going to change things to solve the problem.
You have to understand the problem of course, but once you understand the only way to fix or change anything is to create action.
How much time and effort do you spend focused on the problem versus figuring out what you are going to do about it?
“Concentrate all your thoughts upon the work at hand. The sun’s rays do not burn until brought to a focus.”
Alexander Graham Bell
The digital age could also be called the distracted age. There are so many competing demands for our attention. When was the last time you were in a meeting, at a restaurant, or simply having a conversation with someone when you didn’t see some type of digital device in their hands? I know I am guilty of being distracted on a daily basis. The pull of the digital device is a black hole for creative energy and focus.
How much great work is sacrificed because 100% of our effort isn’t focused on the work at hand? I know that when I make the decision to attend a meeting with only my paper notebook in hand that my focus and participation is so much better. Yet it is so hard to do with regularity. Study after study shows that multi-tasking is a myth, yet we all do it and think that we are are the exception to the rule, that we are able to multi-task with great effect.
It isn’t possible to spend 100% of our time focused and distraction free, but what if we just started by deciding to do it only once per day on whatever the most important thing is for that day?
Today try to attend a meeting, have a conversation, or spend some focused work/thinking time without a digital distraction. See how how it impacts your productivity. Give it a try, how can it hurt?
“The absence of alternatives clears the mind marvelously.”
How do you create this environment artificially? When there are truly no alternatives it is magical how intense and focused one can be on the task at hand. The challenge is that to live in this environment all the time isn’t reasonable. There are always going to be times when there is a plethora of alternatives. The leadership challenge is to pick the right one and then ACT like there aren’t any other choices…
“It’s not the X’s and the O’s, but the Jimmys and the Joes that make the difference.”
This quote has been used in college football for years. Finding the original author proved to be impossible. It has been attributed to Barry Switzer, Jimmy Johnson and many others. Leaders who knew that no matter how brilliant their plays might look on the chalkboard, if they didn’t have the right talent on the field to execute it, the plays wouldn’t work.
I have been blessed in life to work for teams and players that could perform exceptionally well in almost any business. Frankly, they could be successful at any plan, product or initiative. Having an opportunity to serve alongside players like this is incredibly motivating and humbling. They elevate the game of everyone around them. But it is more than just pure energy and commitment. The magic happens when the players fit the game plan ANDthe plan is the right one for the game being played.
Winning takes combining both great plays and great players. You have to have the right talent in the right place. You can’t ask a 6’4″, 220 pound wide receiver who runs a 4.35/40 to be your left tackle and expect to win. Nor can you ask your 6’5″ 312 pound offensive tackle to go run a post route down the field and expect him to beat the coverage.
As Jim Collins wrote in “Good to Great” (still one of my favorite books of all time). “First who, then what.” You have to have the right people. The bottom line is that if you don’t have the right talent you can’t win. Period. The joy of working with exceptional people is almost indescribable. Their will to win, their effort and intensity, their sheer energy that is exuded all the time. With the right people you know that almost any game plan can work. With the wrong people, no matter how great the plan, it is doomed to failure or mediocrity at very best. Sustainable greatness comes from marrying the right talent to the right plan and then executing relentlessly.
So here’s the question. Do you have the magic mix of the right talent, in the right place, at the right time to win?
“Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it.”
Henry David Thoreau
There are a finite number of hours in each our days. Are we spending those hours doing the work that needs be done or are we spending them focused on becoming “successful.” Success is a result, not a destination. I’ve made plenty of mistakes in life by focusing on the end result and not the hard work that was right in front of me. The good news is that you can fix that today, and everyday you go off course, by asking yourself this question:
“Am I working on what needs to be done, or am I working on what I want because of what I’ll get?” Be honest with yourself. If you are I have found that things will reframe themselves pretty quickly.
“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
One day at a time. Focus on his kingdom and righteousness first. That is the message Jesus was sharing in this verse during his Sermon on the Mount. I think it is worth reading the entire passage that leads into this verse to better understand the context of this specific verse.
“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life ? “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”Matthew 6:25-34
There is a lot in this passage to really chew on and meditate on. I know that I for one can get lost in living for the future, planning for, and worrying about, things that aren’t even important in the broad scheme of things. Through worry I can also focus on the wrong things that aren’t the areas or things I should be focused on.
It is amazing that when you do what is written above, the worry ceases to be the idol that controls you. You can put it in the back seat, which is certainly where it belongs and put what’s important in the front…
“I know for sure that what we dwell on is who we become.”
Is the glass half full, or half empty? Are others out to help you, or persecute you? Are you helpful, or helpless? Are you a conqueror or a victim? We all know people who choose to fit into the “negative” side of these questions. They are focused on dwelling on what happens to them instead of focusing their energy on how they can change, grow, learn and evolve. If one is determined to be taken advantage of, they will be. How we frame the way we see the world becomes our world. I also know people who focus on the “positive” aspects and they are the ones that truly inspire and motivate me. They too have become what they dwell on, and have incredible impact on the lives of others because of it.
The same trap applies in leadership as it does in life. Do we dwell on the things we can’t control and look right past the things that we can influence and impact? Does our leadership focus on serving others or being served? Focusing on the wrong side of the equation can create a self-fulfilling prophecy, for better or for worse. The good news is that we have a choice. Who do you want to become? What is it that you need to dwell on to make that happen?
“The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.”
Why is this easier said than done? I know all too often I look at my calendar to see what I have coming for the week instead of starting with my goals and then scheduling time to work on those things that are most important. It is a case of reacting versus being proactive with my time.
There aren’t enough hours in the day, so how you choose to invest them is critical. What is the one thing that you want to get done this coming week to ensure that you can meet your goals? Have you intentionally set aside the time to get it done? The time will pass, how to spend the time is up to you.