Dwell on the right things…

“You must not under any pretense allow your mind to dwell on any thought that is not positive, constructive, optimistic, kind.”

Emmet Fox

Nothing good comes from dwelling on something that is negative, destructive, pessimistic or cruel. Those thoughts infect your behaviors and create actions that you will regret. On the other side finding a way to dwell on thoughts that are positive, constructive, optimistic and kind will have a remarkably positive impact on your actions. Dwell on the right things…

Kindness over rightness…

“If you have a choice between being right and being kind, choose kind.”

Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

How much energy is spent in the world on “being right” versus doing “what is right.” This applies to personal relationships, work relationships, corporate relationships, etc. The minute one’s ego is allowed to be in the drivers seat being right will have a higher priority over doing what is right. The problem is that it creates a vicious cycle where a response or retaliation is the first instinct. When this happens how do you stop the cycle? How do you take the ego out of the drivers seat and return the focus to what is truly important?

In the book of Matthew Jesus laid out how to do this, and it is some incredibly difficult advice to follow. However, when you can pause long enough to remove emotion from the situation you can see how applying this would solve so much in our world.

“But I say to you, Do not resist the one who is evil. But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. “You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.’ And if anyone would sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well. And if anyone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles. Give to the one who begs from you, and do not refuse the one who would borrow from you.” Matthew 5:38-42

Human nature puts the ego in control, puts being right first, puts self over kindness. When you read this passage I love how it mirrors the wisdom in today’s quote and shifts the focus from the desire of being right to demonstrating kindness and generosity. Easy to say, hard to do. How can you choose kindness today?

Keep score today…

“Tip your server. Return your shopping cart. Pick up a piece of trash. Hold the door for the person behind you. Let someone into your lane. Small acts can have a ripple effect. That’s how we change the world.”

Author Unknown

The little efforts that you do for others can have a profound effect not just on the ones that you help, but those that observe you doing them as well. I can vividly remember seeing the CEO of a company I used to work for who would regularly hold the door open for others and pick up a piece of trash in the parking lot. Those impressions were powerful for me not just because he was setting a great example, but because he was extremely grounded. He was well aware that value and worth don’t come from what role you have or how much money you make. Instead the measure of ones value comes from serving others and being intentional in your actions to elevate other people.

If you were to create a game where the score was tallied by how many times in one day you could make another person smile, or how many times you could intentionally do one of the these small acts, how would you score? Try it today, just for one day, and then do it again, and again and again. Then it will become a habit and that’s when going the second mile for someone else can become second nature.

How much do you care?

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”

Leo Buscaglia

We never know the impact we have on another persons life.  The littlest things can matter the most.  When I read the quote above it jumped out that all of those things demonstrate care and concern for another human being.  Showing that we care can change somebodies world.  We don’t know what anyone else is truly going through and how we can impact their lives by demonstrating care.  We might never know, and that is okay because to live an intentional life of caring is our greatest calling.  

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