Fly like a bumble bee…

“Aerodynamically, the bumble bee shouldn’t be able to fly, but the bumble bee doesn’t know it so it goes on flying anyway. ”

Mary Kay Ash

As a parent there are few things better than watching your child grow and achieve things they didn’t yet know they could do. It is beautiful to watch the joy in their eyes as a child succeeds in successfully completing some new physical or mental challenge for the very first time. You can literally see their confidence in their abilities grow right before your eyes.

The beauty here is that children don’t know they “can’t” do something and when they have a cheerleader, whether that is a parent, grandparent, sibling, etc. alongside helping and teaching they can, and will, learn and accomplish things that perhaps they would never have dreamed were possible. They haven’t yet created self-imposed limits on their abilities.

When is it that we as adults begin to create beliefs governing what we can accomplish? How are these belief systems formed? Is it because we don’t have, or haven’t created, the right support system of people around us coaching and pushing us to learn new and different things? Is it because we have tried and failed and therefor have turned failure into a belief that says “I can’t?”

Every time we try and fail we can either turn that into a learning opportunity which will help us as we grow towards our next attempt OR we can choose to treat those failures as limits on our abilities. The first perspective serves as a platform for future growth. The second creates a world that is constantly shrinking as you implement a belief system based on limits and “I can’t.”

How we talk to ourselves and who we surround ourselves with as coaches and mentors will greatly influence our ability to accomplish things we don’t even know are possible. Choose wisely if you want to fly…

Why do you have limits?

“If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.”

Bruce Lee

How do you know if you have gone too far?  For that matter how do you know if you haven’t gone far enough?  I have always believed that limits we have are completely self-imposed, especially the physical ones.  Everything we can, or can’t, do is within our minds control and the ability to overcome and break through starts with the limits we impose on ourselves.

The question that comes to mind for me revolves around the answers to the ‘why’ questions.  Why are we striving? Why are the limits there?  Why are we trying to break through them? I am reminded of this verse from Galatians as I reflect on today’s quote.

“Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”
‭‭Galatians‬ ‭1:10‬ ‭NIV

There are no limits other than those we choose to impose upon ourselves. How we set them, or break through them, will depend on our answers to the ‘why’ questions

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