Permission to make mistakes…

“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.”

Elbert Hubbard

What is the worst thing that can happen as an outcome of the choice you are about to make? Is your decision reversible if things go wrong? If the answer is no, take some time to think it through, understand the risks, and make a well-informed and reasoned determination.  

If the decision is reversible, set a time and date to review the course you plotted against your desired outcomes and be prepared to change direction if necessary. Someone once told me, “always have an exit strategy. You never get on a submarine without knowing where the exit hatches are.”  

If you plan to review and make any necessary changes, you permit yourself to make the mistakes that will inevitably happen.  

Neither inferior or superior…

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

Eleanor Roosevelt

Feeling inferior is a choice, there isn’t a single person on this earth who is better than another because of role, degree or pedigree. We are all humans who put their britches on the same way each morning. Whether you feel superior, or inferior, you are wrong on both accounts. Don’t allow someone to make you feel either way, both are flawed.

Advise vs. compel…

“To advise is not to compel.”

Anton Chekhov

When someone asks you for advice are you focused on giving them your perspective or your permission? If you are offering advice in a “tell people what to do” manner then you are creating and reinforcing a hierarchal culture that seeks permission before acting. So be very careful that when you offer advice isn’t seen as a directive.

If you cross the line and deliver a message that is focused on compelling others to do things your way, and only your way, you are killing creativity, innovation, engagement and discretionary effort. There is a time and a place for issuing a mandate, but by and large it isn’t when people are seeking advice or perspective.

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