“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.”
Every defeat is an opportunity to become stronger, to become better.
Every rising again is a rebirth as a slightly better version of oneself.
Seek out defeats. Seek out opportunities to fail. Seek out challenges bigger and better than you are ready for right now. For tomorrow you will rise up stronger and higher because of the defeats of today.
Tomorrow isn’t defined by today’s defeats, it is built upon them.
“Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value.”
Success is a result of a intentional choices or actions. Striving to be of value is how you choose to show up. If your efforts aren’t a success, but you love how you showed up, isn’t that just success by a different name?
“Where there is humility, there is more success, and lasting success.”
As many have said “humility is a funny thing, the first time you think you have it you actually don’t”. So what then is success?
I think the key to this quote is to defining what success really means to you. If success is serving others, enabling others, and helping others, before thinking of your own needs, then that is humility. Anything else really isn’t lasting success…
“Success is no accident. It is hard work, perseverance, learning, studying, sacrifice and most of all, love of what you are doing or learning to do.”
There truly is no such thing as an “overnight success.” Sure, luck or chance can play a role, but one has to be ready for those opportunities when they arise. You can’t look at someone who happened to win the lottery as successful. Winning the lottery isn’t success, that is just being incredibly lucky against the odds, though based on all the research on the unhappiness of lottery winners I am not certain it is all that lucky…
I think it is important to remember that “success” is, or should be, internally defined, not externally defined based on whatever the world has decided success should look like. An artist who devotes their life to capturing a certain quality of light in their paintings is successful if they achieve their goal and are happy with the result. They might never sell a single painting, but they weren’t working and sacrificing in order to sell their work, they invested their time, effort and energy because they loved the work itself.
How do you define success? Is it through the lens of the modern world? Money, fame, fortune? Or is your definition of success based on something internal and intrinsic to oneself? Can you consider yourself successful if you are never rich and famous? What is it that you want to achieve, and will follow the recipe mentioned in this quote above to accomplish?
Regardless of how you define success, and what it is that you want to achieve, you can’t get there without demonstrating the attributes of “hard work, perseverance, learning, studying, sacrifice and most of all, love of what you are doing or learning to do.” These principles apply to everything in life, your marriage, your hobbies, your family relationships, your work, your projects, etc.
What stands out to me the most is this, if you don’t “love what you are doing or learning to do,” you are going to have a hard time generating the energy necessary to do all the other things required to make yourself successful.
Take the time to define your success and ensure that you truly love what it is you are doing. Then the hard work won’t feel quite so hard.
“Failure is often that early morning hour of darkness which precedes the dawning of the day of success.”
Leigh Mitchell Hodges
The lens through which one views failure is critical for creating a life of success and growth. I have found that there are two ways to look at failure.
First, you can see failure as an indictment of self and this manifests in seeing yourself as a failure. “I am a failure.” This isn’t healthy nor is it true. No one is a failure at an individual level. We will all fail many times in life. Heck, we likely fail on a daily basis as we fall short of being the person that we were created to be. But that doesn’t mean that we are a failure as a human being.
Second, you can see failure as a specific unsuccessful set of actions or behaviors in a particular moment in time. You might fail to achieve some goal, some target, etc.. But that doesn’t mean that you are a failure as a person. It just means that we were unsuccessful in our attempt at something. We have simply failed through our actions to create an outcome we desired.
The most important component in building a life of continual growth is looking at your failures through the lens of learning. One must constantly and continually seek our your failures with the intent to learn. Lean in to your frustrations, defeats and shortfalls. This is how you can create the “dawning day of success.”
“The big question about how people behave is whether they’ve got an Inner Scorecard or an Outer Scorecard. It helps if you can be satisfied with an Inner Scorecard.”
How do you measure your success? Is the scorecard for that success one that is public and visible for all to see? Or is it private and internal for just yourself and God to see and understand? Do you care more about the outer scorecard and what others think and say or do you put more emphasis on the inner scorecard based on your own core values and mores?
I guess you could have two scorecards, but they had better be aligned in almost every way, because if they aren’t you will inevitably make a choice that violates the principles of one of them. So in all reality there is just one scorecard. Where and how do you keep score?
“The key to victory [is] creating the right routines.”
Over the years I have found that having a morning routine is what sets the day up for maximum productivity and enjoyment. I have tried many different things in an attempt to find just the right way to start my day and while I haven’t settled on a “perfect” routine just yet I am pretty happy with the routine listed below that I use to start each day the right way.
Ice Water – I start each morning with a big (32oz) glass of ice water to rehydrate after sleeping. Yes, even before my beloved coffee… Double bonus is that there is nothing like a glass of ice water to wake up the mind!
Meditation – This is a relatively new addition to my routine but is now a critical component of my morning routine. I meditate for 15-20 minutes each morning as soon as I have had my ice water and before I look at any type of electronic devices.
Devotional & Journal – I find that reading, studying and praying over a scripture based devotional is very powerful, especially after time spent in meditation. The second part of this routine is a daily journal. The topics I write about can be anything that is on my mind but I always include a portion of my time focused on gratitude and those things that I am especially grateful from the previous 24 hours.
Leadership Quote & Blog – Yes, I choose my quote and write my blog post each morning. Occasionally time compression will dictate a later quote or blog post but 99% of the time this is part of my morning routine. I have found that I really enjoy framing my day by taking time to reflect on leadership or life.
Physical Fitness – I have come to the realization that in order for me to be at peak effectiveness I need at least 60 minutes of physical activity a day. Sometimes I can’t always get it in during the morning before work, but if I can find a way I will. I am much more focused and efficient through the day when I start the day with a hard workout.
What are your routines? Do you feel “off” when your routine is disrupted?
“Work hard in silence. Let success be your noise.”
Do you do the work for the glory, or for the joy of the work itself? If you make it all about the celebration it says that it is all about you. Is that the message you want to send and the life you want to live?
“Ultimately, leadership is not about glorious crowning acts. It’s about keeping your team focused on a goal and motivated to do their best to achieve it, especially when the stakes are high and the consequences really matter. It is about laying the groundwork for others’ success, and then standing back and letting them shine.”
The best leader I have ever worked for did two things exceptionally well. First, he asked great questions to keep our team focused on where we were going, not just what we were doing. Second, when we achieved great results, he stepped back and gave the team all the credit. He knew it wasn’t about him and as a result his team would have done anything for him. Leadership isn’t about you…
“Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed, is more important than any other one thing.”
Suffering setbacks, failures and challenges is inevitable. It is going to happen to all of us at some point or another. How we react and respond is a choice. Deciding to succeed despite the challenges is a choice. Doing whatever it takes to overcome is a choice.
But then, so is quitting… Which choice are you going to make today?
“Success breeds complacency. Complacency breeds failure. Only the paranoid survive.”
The minute you think you have arrived, that you think you can lay back and relax because you have accomplished your goal, that is the minute you start to slide towards complacency and irrelevance. Complacency scares me more than almost anything else. Complacency means that you don’t care deeply and passionately and that goes against every fiber of my being. But how do you make sure that you pause long enough to recognize success?
I know that I struggle to slow down long enough to celebrate success. When something is achieved I immediately begin thinking of the next thing, the next goal. How do you ensure that you pause long enough when achieving some level of success but not become comfortable there? What is the appropriate about of time to celebrate success before starting towards the next journey?
I follow the principle “celebrate a win for a day, then get back to work.” Numerous people have talked and written about this and it has worked for me. What works for you?
“Success is a lousy teacher. It seduces smart people into thinking they can’t lose.”
I don’t like to lose. Heck, no one likes to lose. Losing isn’t fun, pretty or enjoyable. Losing sucks. Period. However, nothing stokes the fire of determination and focus like a loss. Nothing teaches a more powerful lesson than losing, if you choose to learn. That’s the key right, you have to choose to learn. You have to accept the loss, and your part in it, so that you can you learn and build on it so you can win the next time.
I would strongly argue that losing is more important to growth and development than winning. Losing is the platform that wins are built from. If you don’t know how to lose, how can you learn to win?
We must work as hard as we can to win and build success. When the losses come, and they will, then we have to embrace the suck, figure out why, and get up and try again.
Will I ever enjoy losing? Absolutely not. I hate losing with a passion. But do I appreciate every loss I have ever had? Damn right. Those losses, and the scars that they created, are the burning fire that powers all future successes. Losing is going to happen to all of us. Being a loser is a choice that we individually make….
“Effort does not guarantee success, it only removes the guarantee of failure.”
No matter how hard we work at something success is never guaranteed. All the hard effort in the world just might not be enough. But if you don’t put in the effort you are absolutely going to fail. I think the real key is how you answer this question:
If we don’t put in our best and maximum effort will we look back later and wonder if failure happened because we didn’t try hard enough?
“If you don’t have time to do it right, when will you have time to do it over?”
I don’t know about you but there just never seem to be enough hours in the day. The world today is busier than ever and the distractions are relentless.
I really love this quote because it makes you sit back and thing about the work you are doing. If you are doing something to check the box, achieve the minimum standard, etc, then why are you doing it all all? If it is something that needs to be done right, what needs to go in order for you to have the time to accomplish the task at hand?
Part of the challenge in today’s hyper busy world is that it is easier, and more acceptable unfortunately, to do more things, at the bare minimum level. That doesn’t create long-term sustainable success. Focusing on the few things that really matter, and then executing them to a degree of completion that ensures they won’t have to be redone is a guaranteed way to stand out from the crowd.
Besides, if you are so busy, how can taking the time to redo anything be a palatable option! Get it right, get it done, move on to the next important thing.
“Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.”
I really love this quote as I’ve been thinking a lot lately on the phrase “focus on the solution, not on the problem” which was one of the quotes from last week. It is amazing how easy it is to allow oneself to focus on why things can’t be done, as opposed to what can be. It drives me crazy to hear, “that will never work” or “oh, I can’t do that.” Not that I haven’t been guilty of it myself more than a few times… How do you flip this around when it comes up?
I’ve found that focusing on one simple question can reframe the thinking when I, or others, get caught in the “excuses trap.” Because let’s face it, if you are focused on what you cannot do, you are making excuses. The question is this; “What one thing can I do to create change in this situation?”
Success in anything requires taking ownership and finding the path forward. Getting caught up in the reason why something won’t work is a guaranteed way to get bogged down and achieve less than you are capable.
“If you set your goals ridiculously high and it’s a failure, you will fail above everyone else’s success.”
I would argue that if your goal doesn’t scare you just a little bit, it isn’t set high enough. If your goals are too easy, they just aren’t going to make you stretch. They won’t make you push, make you dig deep and find that extra effort and energy you didn’t know you had.
Goals shouldn’t be targets set to where you know you can hit them, they should scare you because you really don’t know if you can reach them. Only then will you find what you are really made of.
Are you willing to aim so high that you might fail? If failure isn’t a real and potential option, your goals are too easy…
“Successful people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. Don’t wish it were easier; wish you were better.”
I have a long list of things I want to do better. Things that I need to be better at in order to continue to grow and improve. Wishing won’t make them happen. I have to pick the two or three that are most important, or perhaps just the one thing, and then create a plan to make it better. Then it is all about execution of that plan.
The watch out is to ensure that I pick the right thing(s) to work on. Picking the simple one because it is easy or fun, versus the one I really need is where the hard work comes in. You have to tackle the stuff you might not want too… But that is how you grow. It’s the only way to grow.
“If everyone is moving forward together, then success takes care of itself.”
There is a great deal of satisfaction that comes when you are part of a team. The energy that comes from working with others towards a shared vision is palpable. Success becomes the result, not just a goal or a thing to be achieved.
Without teamwork I would argue that while a specific task or objective might be achieved, the true opportunity is left unfulfilled. Teamwork unlocks the magic of what could be.
Why then do teams get off track? Lack of a crystal clear vision or goal and clearly aligned team and individual objectives that bring focus and clarity to the work at hand. Without this there is always going to be some sand in the gears so to speak.
If you haven’t read “Measure What Matters” by John Doerr I highly recommend it. One of the best books I have read on creating focus and clarity as a team. Truly exceptional.
When in doubt do something. Even if it is isn’t perfect and might not be the best possible choice. With a strong bias towards action you can always take another action to address whatever it is that needs to be fixed. Sitting around talking about things doesn’t make change happen. I believe a bias towards action is critical in life and leadership. Inaction represents indecision and an inability to get things done. Inaction doesn’t inspire confidence or create a winning attitude.
When in doubt, focus on one simple rule. Get. Stuff. Done.
“Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it.”
Henry David Thoreau
There are a finite number of hours in each our days. Are we spending those hours doing the work that needs be done or are we spending them focused on becoming “successful.” Success is a result, not a destination. I’ve made plenty of mistakes in life by focusing on the end result and not the hard work that was right in front of me. The good news is that you can fix that today, and everyday you go off course, by asking yourself this question:
“Am I working on what needs to be done, or am I working on what I want because of what I’ll get?” Be honest with yourself. If you are I have found that things will reframe themselves pretty quickly.
“The price of success is hard work, dedication to the job at hand, and the determination that whether we win or lose, we have applied the best of ourselves to the task at hand.”
People that lean in always impress me. I am talking about those who look for ways to serve others, serve the organization, serve a higher purpose. The type of person that drops everything to go get it done; to do what matters most. They don’t wait to be told or asked but they raise their hand and volunteer. They exhibit and live an ethos of “whatever it takes to get the job done.” They just see what needs to be done and do it. No complaints, no focus on “what does this mean for me, what am I going to get out of this” they just get it done.
This type of person doesn’t know how to quit. This is the athlete that is committed to excellence and doesn’t take plays off. They know the ball isn’t coming their way on the next play but they are committed to performing at the highest level no matter what.
This is what it takes to create success. The determination to grow, persevere no matter what, to find ways to contribute and add value without making it all about yourself. When you do this, regardless of the score, you win…
“Wishing is a form of inspiration for the lazy mind but taking action, persisting and finding alternative routes to your destination against all odds is the definition of a SUCCESSFUL venture.”
A wish is simply a seed that is sown that can grow into a great tree or a beautiful flower. But for the seed to survive and become what is is capable of it must overcome all sorts of challenges and obstacles. In the same manner for a wish to grow it must be nurtured, it won’t happen by accident or through simple desire.
This quote reminds me of the parable of the sower from Matthew 13: 1-23. For our wish to become reality it must fall on good soil and be tended and protected. That is our responsibility and obligation as leaders. To achieve great things we can’t be content with wishing, we must instead ensure that our dreams, and the dreams of those whom we serve, are nurtured, encouraged, and sustained against all odds. If wishes are seeds then we are gardeners charged with ensuring they grow to their full potential.
What seeds are worth taking from dream to reality? What seeds are worth planting and protecting no matter what happens?
“To succeed, you need to find something to hold on to, something to motivate you, something to inspire you.”
What gets you out of bed in the morning? What is that big thing that drives you long after everyone else has given up? That something that pushes you out of your comfort zone and into new levels of growth?
It doesn’t have to be a big thing, or something that will impress others, but it has to be YOUR thing. When you find that bigger than you something that will drive you to grow beyond your current self, you will have succeeded. You will have the fuel necessary to make the changes needed to grow as a person and as a leader.
One word of caution, make sure that the thing you hold on to, that motivates you, that inspires you doesn’t become an idol that OWNS you…
“Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.”
Great things aren’t built in flash. It takes planning, focus, determination, and consistent effort to build anything that is worthwhile. All too often we want the big deal, the big result, the next “big thing” without having put in the effort required to build it. Those great things won’t and don’t happen without a ton of work that is built on the foundation of the daily activities and habits we embrace. Those efforts, performed with great clarity and focus, are creating the foundation for our successes in the future. It is these small efforts that build great things. It doesn’t work any other way, so don’t take for granted the small things, for those habits will define who you become.
If you could travel back in time five years what small things would you tell yourself to start doing in order to change and grow toward greater successes and learning in the future? What prevents you from starting them today?