How do you measure your growth?

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“If your parents ever measured you as a child, they had you stand against a wall, and made a little pencil mark on the wall to show your growth. They did not measure you against your brother, or the neighbor’s kids, or kids on TV. When you measure your growth, make sure to only measure your today self by your past self. If you compare your relationships, your success, or your anything against anyone else, you are not being fair to you. Everyone has a different path, a different pace, and different challenges to face along the way.”

Doe Zantamata

I love the analogy used in this quote, the absolute truth conveyed by the pencil marks on the wall. Those were specific data points from a moment in time that can’t be changed or stretched to fit a different narrative or used to compare to someone else.  

What are the “marks on the wall” in your life today? How do you measure your growth in a specific and objective manner, not subject to interpretation by or comparison to others? What are you doing to ensure that you are capturing your advancement in life and ensuring that you are continually moving forward and making progress?

Perhaps you need to create a measurement mechanism and a timeline for regular review to capture where you are at specific moments in time, just like those pencil marks on the wall.

Ask yourself these three simple questions two to three times per year. Use the same journal or writing medium, so as time passes, you can look back at your answers and see how YOU have grown and evolved.  

  1. Who do I want to be?
  2. Why is this important to me?
  3. How do I need to change to become that person?

Notice that none of these questions are about “what do I want?” Or “what do others expect?” These questions are about drilling into yourself and creating a discipline of regular check-ins to establish a baseline and measure your progress.  

Give it a try. Go ahead and answer these questions today, and when you get done, put time on your calendar six months from now to do it again. Add another appointment for one year from today. You are making this appointment with and for yourself. Can you imagine how influential this journal would be ten, fifteen, or twenty years from today? I certainly wish I had started this practice twenty years ago, I can’t begin to imagine how powerful it would be to have a quantitative measuring stick of my evolution and progress.  

It’s never too late to start so begin today…

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Dusty Holcomb

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  1. I love the question, “Who do I want to be?” as opposed to “What do I want to get?”

    Nick Saban, the coach at Alabama, asks his players, “How good do you want to be?”

    One of the things I want to get right as a parent is for my children to value “who they are” as infinitely more important than “what they have.”

    I find myself repeatedly writing a simple mantra in my journal, “Character is destiny,” which is a loose translation from the Heraclitus fragment, “Ethos Anthropoi Daimon.”

    Thanks, Dusty, for helping keep my mind on point.

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