“Doubt is a pain too lonely to be borne alone.”
Anne Lamott
I have found doubt to be a constant and, at times, a valued companion throughout my career. It reminds me that I don’t have all the answers and that gaining perspective is essential to making the right decisions. I call it “valued” because it signals that I am stretching beyond my comfort zone. There were many moments when I wasn’t sure if the decision I was about to make was the right one. Wrestling with those choices became a powerful next step—asking the right questions, seeking out a trusted mentor, and ultimately trusting God with those things that were out of my control.
I see the choice to harness doubt as a catalyst for refinement, not only in the workplace but in every facet of life. Reflecting on my journey, there are decisions I would have made differently if I had embraced these practices earlier. Yet, those missteps taught me the importance of learning from mistakes, focusing on what I can control, and trusting God that there is a bigger path and purpose. Today, I want to share how embracing the gift of leadership vulnerability can transform that constant companion of doubt into a catalyst for deeper insight, better decision-making, and authentic leadership that enriches every area of our lives.
The Anatomy of Doubt and Vulnerability
Doubt often creeps into our lives during those critical crossroads—whether it’s a major business decision, a personal turning point, or a moment that challenges our deepest values. I’ve experienced doubt in corporate meetings, during long nights of prayer and reflection, and even in the quiet moments when I questioned my own purpose. In these moments, doubt can feel isolating, as if I were the only one wrestling with uncertainty.
Yet, I’ve come to understand that doubt is simply a natural part of the human experience. It isn’t a sign of failure, but rather an invitation to think through the plan, assess the stakes, and trust in God’s guidance. When doubt surfaces, it nudges us to seek clarity—whether through thoughtful reflection, honest conversation, or prayer. Embracing vulnerability means acknowledging that even the most confident among us have moments of uncertainty. This admission does not diminish our strength; instead, it paves the way for genuine connection and growth that touches every part of our lives.
Leadership Vulnerability: Turning Doubt into Growth
Embracing leadership vulnerability is a transformative act. It means recognizing that our doubts aren’t obstacles to be hidden but opportunities for refinement. I remember a time when I faced a major business challenge that had the potential to reshape our entire strategy. I wasn’t entirely sure if my chosen path was correct. Rather than concealing my uncertainties, I decided to share them with my team.
This decision led to a remarkable outcome. The open discussion that followed was rich with insights—ideas emerged that I hadn’t considered, and together, we crafted a plan that was far stronger than any one of us could have devised alone. By admitting my uncertainty, I lightened my own burden and empowered my team to bring their full, authentic selves to the table. This openness not only reaffirmed our collective strength but also deepened our trust in one another.
Leadership vulnerability isn’t confined to the boardroom. It’s about living authentically in every aspect of life—acknowledging when you’re unsure about a personal decision, when you’re grappling with faith, or when the path ahead isn’t clear. For me, those moments of vulnerability have been essential to growth, not only as a leader in business but as a person who trusts in a greater plan. Embracing vulnerability has reshaped how I approach every decision, big or small, reminding me that doubt is a natural part of the journey toward refinement and purpose in all areas of life.
The Power of Connection and Mentorship
No one is an island—this is a truth that resonates deeply with me, and one I have to remind myself of when I am working through something alone. Throughout my journey, I have learned that the most profound insights often come from those who have traveled a similar path. Building a strong network of mentors, trusted colleagues, and friends can transform isolation into a shared experience of growth.
Early in my career, I encountered a mentor who openly discussed his own struggles and uncertainties. His candidness taught me that vulnerability isn’t something to hide; it’s a strength. His willingness to share his challenges helped me understand that leadership is not about being perfect—it’s about being human. That mentor’s guidance, rooted in honesty and faith, has influenced the way I lead to this day.
I also want to share a couple of resources that have profoundly impacted my understanding of vulnerability. One is the book Daring Greatly by Brené Brown. I have mentioned this book before but it so valuable in understanding the power and authenticity that comes from allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Her insights have been a game changer for me—reminding me that embracing my imperfections is a sign of true strength. Equally powerful is her TED Talk, The Power of Vulnerability. This talk captures the essence of why vulnerability matters in both leadership and life. I share these resources not merely as recommendations, but as trusted companions on my own journey toward authenticity and growth, applicable at work, at home, and in every decision that shapes our lives.
Actionable Leadership Practices
Turning these reflections into daily practice is where transformation happens. Here are three specific, actionable leadership practices that have helped me harness the power of leadership vulnerability:
- Open Conversations: Make it a routine to have honest conversations with mentors, peers, or team members. Create regular opportunities—perhaps a monthly roundtable—where everyone can share their challenges and learnings without judgment. I’ve found that these conversations not only provide fresh insights but also build a supportive community where vulnerability is seen as a strength across all aspects of life.
- Reflective Journaling: At the end of each day, take a few minutes to write down moments when doubt crept in. Reflect on what triggered those feelings, how you responded, and what lessons you learned. This practice has served as a mirror for me, revealing patterns and growth areas that I might have otherwise overlooked. Over time, reflective journaling helps to clarify thoughts, ground decisions, and reinforce trust in God’s bigger plan, whether those decisions are made at work or in our personal lives.
- Cultivate Accountability Partnerships: Identify a small group of peers who share your commitment to growth and authenticity. Set up an accountability partnership where you can regularly check in with one another—discussing challenges, celebrating victories, and offering honest feedback. These partnerships create a safe space for sharing vulnerabilities and help ensure that you’re not carrying your doubts alone, be it in your professional endeavors or personal journey.
Each of these practices has helped me navigate the inevitable waves of doubt and turn them into stepping stones for both personal and professional growth. They remind me daily that leadership isn’t about having all the answers but about being willing to learn, adapt, and trust that there is a larger purpose at work—one that spans every dimension of our lives.
A Call to Embrace Leadership Vulnerability
Reflecting on my journey, I recognize that doubt has always been more than just an obstacle—it’s been a valued companion, a catalyst for refinement, and an opportunity to trust in a bigger plan. Embracing leadership vulnerabilityhas allowed me to transform moments of uncertainty into opportunities for deeper connection and growth, both at work and in every area of life.
I encourage you to take a moment today to reflect on the doubts you might be carrying. Consider reaching out to a mentor or trusted friend, or try incorporating reflective journaling into your routine. Embrace those moments of uncertainty as chances to learn, grow, and lean into a greater purpose. Every step you take toward embracing vulnerability is a step toward a more authentic and fulfilling life.
What doubt will you choose to transform today, and how might embracing that vulnerability unlock the next breakthrough in your leadership and life?
